How Self-Doubt Shaped My Mentorship Journey

As a physical therapy student, I was supported by a professor I admired and trusted. He helped me get into the program by writing a strong letter of recommendation and became my research advisor. At first, I felt like I had an ally, a mentor who believed in me and wanted me to succeed.

But everything changed when I followed another professor’s guidance during my research instead of his. That one decision turned our relationship upside down. From then on, it felt like he was determined to see me fail. Over the next four semesters, I faced his attempts to have me removed from the program, which created emotional stress I couldn’t avoid. I carried that weight with me.

The betrayal was heartbreaking. I felt like I had no one to turn to for support, he was the person I trusted the most.   This experience made me believe that something was wrong with me, that I was a problem, and that I was bound to fail.  Although I used this belief to motivate myself, my efforts were always overshadowed by the fear that failure was certain.

Turning Pain into Purpose: How It Shaped My Mentorship

As a mentor today, I often think back on my experience with my professor. When I guide someone now, it’s normal for them to disagree with my advice or take a different approach. Instead of getting frustrated or taking it personally, I give them space to find their own path. Sometimes, they realize my advice works best. Other times, their way surprises me with great results.

This approach has made mentorship a two-way learning experience. I see it as a chance for both of us to grow. My past taught me how harmful it can be to push my views on others, so I try to guide with openness and patience. Now, I guide others with patience and an open heart, creating a safe space for them to discover their own potential.

The Emotional Toll and Its Lasting Effects

The emotional strain from my experience with my professor left lasting effects. At the time, I felt like I had no one to turn to. My trust in people was broken, and I became cautious, always fearing someone would betray me again. This sense of isolation made me believe I was meant to struggle on my own.

Carrying that belief for years was draining, but it also pushed me to prove myself. I wanted to show I was capable, that I could succeed despite the doubts I had. But even as I reached achievements in my career, that feeling of self-doubt remained. Every success felt overshadowed by a constant fear that failure was always near.

What I’ve Learned

Looking back, I can see how that experience shaped both my career and personal growth. It made me realize how much word and actions can affect others, especially those who look up to you. It also taught me the value of persistence and self-reflection.

While the betrayal left its mark, it also gave me a clear purpose: to be the kind of mentor I wished I had. My approach to mentoring now focuses on understanding, patience, and mutual learning. I no longer think of disagreements or setbacks as failures, but as opportunities to learn and grow with those I mentor.

As difficult as that chapter of my life was, it laid the foundation for my work today. It prepared me for the challenges of becoming a NeuroChangeSolutions Consultant, where I help others confront and overcome their own limiting beliefs. It also helped me understand resilience better, the kind that doesn’t avoid pain but moves through it with purpose and strength.

We all have moments of self-doubt, but it’s how we face them that defines our growth. Facing those moments with courage is the key to unlocking our potential.